I am so very glad I
found the Seven Sisters blog. I look forward
so eagerly to Jessica’s posts. It just
delights my heart.
The most recent post, here, speaks about a tradition the
sisters started last year on Valentine’s Day, of meeting up to imagine what
they would all be doing in ten years’ time.
So this year they met again to ask the same question – only now it will
be nine years’ time. You can read all
about it on the blog, with lots of pictures.
But it made me wonder – how about you? How do you imagine your life will look in ten
years’ time? It’s a very different
question, isn’t it, when asked in middle age!!
I know something of the lives of some of you who read and share here,
and I can guess that you want to say “Don’t ask! One step at a time is all I can manage right
now!”
My grandfather, my mother’s father, played the violin. He liked to play hymns, and one of his
favourites was Lead Kindly Light. They had it at his funeral, but I was only a
baby then, so I don’t remember – I don’t even know if I was there. But I think about my grandfather when that
hymn is sung (not often nowadays). My
beautiful mama has a photo of him holding me in his arms. I could speak very early, just a few words,
and he used to rock me and sing “Rock-a-bye-baby” to me until he thought I’d
dozed off to sleep. But when he stopped
singing I’d open my eyes and demand “More baby!”
Anyway the first verse of Lead Kindly Light goes:
Lead, kindly Light, amid th’encircling gloom, lead Thou me on!
The night is dark, and I am far from home; lead Thou me on!
Keep Thou my feet; I do not ask to see
The distant scene; one step enough for me.
I can immediately think of several
among my friends who might pray that most fervently – “I can’t bear to think
about what’s coming next – just keep me steady through today.”
And for you, I pray that it will
be so; that God will keep your feet steady in His path, that you will not slip
or falter or lose your way, and that the Lord Jesus will walk with you all the
way home, holding your hand when you are afraid and the going is treacherous.
But now – if looking ten years
ahead scares you a little, can you at least think of five things you would like to have come true in your life in
ten years? Here are my five:
In ten years’ time I would like:
1) It to be the tenth anniversary of belonging to the Servants With Jesus (I’ll tell you about them tomorrow!)
2) To have really long hair and had the strength of mind not to cut it
3) To have spent the last ten years sticking faithfully to a healthy pattern of diet and exercise
To have a dog
Of course I hope for lots of other
things too – for good health and for my children and grandchildren to be happy
and cheerful and kind and protected from every possible adversity, for my husband to be enjoying his
retirement in contentment, for peace on earth and marvellous reversals in our
present approach to caring for forests and waters, wilderness, birds, animals,
earth. I hope wars will have ceased and
gentleness will abound, that we shall have entered an age of wisdom when sages
increase and prophets are two a penny, when the people return to prayer and
faithfulness and the voices of the ego are stilled. But . . . er . . . well . . . you never know.
And you? In ten years’ time you would like . . . ?






32 comments:
Oh, I like this challenge--and will steal one of yours:
1. To be following a path of Gospel simplicity, living lightly on the earth and making the Lord Jesus known and loved everywhere.
2. Continuing the pattern of eating that has served me well the past 12 months (and hopefully enjoying the health it has brought me thus far).
3. Settled in smaller, simpler, and "earthy" living quarters, preferably with a view of a quiet lake or river, pond or "puddle"
4. Enjoying evenings of quiet, thoughtful company in the form of a few good friends, familiar books, and visits from grandchildren transitioning into adulthood.
5. Being a genuinely thankful, gracious, kind and contented person.
(I'd better jot these down in my journal RIGHT now and begin working on them immediately!)
:0) I can feel the beautiful quality of that life you are shaping, Rebecca! x
In ten years' time I would like to live lighter on the earth -- about 40 pounds lighter. ;)
I will be 65 by then, but have never been able to envision myself a very old woman, so perhaps in ten years' time I will have seen my Savior face to face. That thought brings nothing but joy.
I love what Rebecca shared!
Wonderful, thoughtful post, Ember....
Oooh no, you forgot something!
'In ten years time I will have had a holiday to England to see my friends Kay and Ember face to face'
:0)
xxx
Aaahhhh -- yes, maybe it could actually happen! And may I please see Tony and Alan and Grace and the Wretched Wretch and Rosie and Hebe and Alice and Fiona and Chris and Andrew and Louisa, etc, etc?
xxoo
beautiful!
1. to have a well established prayer and devotional life.
2. to be as self-sufficient as possible and live in a cob house
3. to become a seasoned traveller overseas
4. to be more in love with my hubby than the day we were married.
What sweet sisters!! Thank you for sharing that with us, Pen.
Frankly, I have let go of thinking much about the future, as I am so intent now on living mindfully. In America we are obsessed with working towards goals, and the new "thing" is too have a list of 100 things to do before you die, or a bucket list. I avoid that type of thinking as much as possible.
However, I like very much what you and Rebecca have written, which is not like a bucket list. "Deeping in living in the Spirit" might cover all of what I might write down.
Case in point: I just got some uncomfortable news from the doctor's office. I have come to conclude that I can no longer have my evening glass of wine, so I will need to shift my habits in order to live in harmony with my body again (a never-ending process). Perhaps in time I can have a glass on the weekend? Maybe, but I will live for now.
This way of living -- mindfully -- leaves me feeling contented and grateful almost all the time.
Blessings on you all, ladies.
Oh Ember,
You do tend to write posts that make one Think. And I do mean Think capitalized, sometimes even THINK in all caps, not just think as in "I think I'll have another biscuit as they're rather small and I'm not soooo big yet..."
I shall leave world peace to Heaven as I'm not certain my idealistic agenda is in agreement with the real purpose of the earth and all our existence. When in doubt I always like to assume the Almighty sees The Big Picture more clearly than I do.
On to smaller matters.
In ten years time I shall live in a colorful, tidy and comfy cottage where I can walk to everything or nearly everything I need to do. For what I cannot do on my own two feet I shall have a dashing blue bicycle with stout baskets on the back. With a wide seat...for my wide seat.
If I do have need of a car I shall keep it tucked into a garage and will need to wipe the dust and possibly cobwebs off whenever I drive it, for it will be verrry seldom.
It would help greatly if the cottage had solar power. I'm used to heating with wood from our land here, but it is an enormous amount of work to fell the trees, cut the wood, split it, stack it to dry, restack it nearer the house, bring it in and keep the stove going. I can't imagine doing that alone in old age, and I can't imagine the Manimal will live as long as I, so I'll need an easier home.
I will own nothing that I do not have a use for, and nothing that is not functional and beautiful. By beautiful I do not mean spotted with rhinestones or bedecked with cheap frills. I mean the sort of beauty of a hand sculpted tea bowl or a sturdy wooden table.
I will have a play nook where the toys for grandchildren live and when they come over I will play with them there, not banish them there "while the grown-ups talk" as grown-ups seldom have anything to say half as truly interesting as playing with childen.
Somehow I will get to see the three of my children who live far away more often than I do now. That would be lovely! They are my favorite people in all the world.
I will be happily retired from custodial work which means I will have kissed our uniform of ill-fitting trousers and ugly polyester tops goodby once and for all and will be able to just wear my homemade cotton dresses every day.
I will make art and craft things every day, because making thing is what makes me happiest. I would like to have a workshop with artist friends, it's good to have someone to bounce ideas off of.
I shall of course still have a dog I adore, and a sufficiency of cats, and quite possibly three red hens.
And hopefully I will be ten years better at letting the Light shine through me, and ten years better at not fretting over things that don't really matter.
I shall be less focused on what "the world" is doing with itself, and more focused on what I'm meant to be doing with myself.
Love more, worry less.
OH MY GOODNESS! You people! You bless the socks off me! If there's one thing I like better than being let loose in a hardware/haberdashery/stationery store it's coming by here to see what you've all written!
What wonderful thoughts!
Julie B - we shall all be lined up smiling to make you welcome.
Jules - what a wonderful picture your modest list presents to the imagination - the peace and refuge of a wonderful home-made house filled with love and prayer - with a side of exotic travel. How fab.
Paula - I think 'mindful' is one of my favourite words ever. Living mindfully, living in the Spirit, generating contentment and gratitude - this is surely what we were made for.
And Rapunzel - I think you should add writing books to your future plans, because I just love how you describe things - it makes them appear before my eyes as if it was all happening now and I could really see it. 'Better at letting the Light shine through' - Amen to that for me too!
xxx
I can only cope with five years but here it is:
1. Like you to spread the Gospel and to live lightly but also to learn to take so that others can give.
2. That the little semi-eremetical sisterhood my spiritual father blessed me to start will be flourishing.
3. That it will become a place of refuge for women who need a little time centred around prayer to help them cope with their lives.
4. That I can find a few hours work a week with the elderly and make the rest of my income at home. A real full-time job would make the rest very difficult.
5. To have improved my health by doing the things I know I should instead of fretting about them.
And, Rapunzel, I do like the phrase, "a sufficiency of cats". I have two, the Little Sisters of the Discalced Sardine Eaters, and they are more than sufficient!
God bless your sisterhood, Margaret - I'd love to hear more about that - and may the means to sustain you and it be provided.
Okay I've found your blog Margaret and am off to have a proper look at it now . . .
Ten years!!! Pen, I'm one of the ones just hoping to make it through the day one hour, one minute, at a time. I can't think in YEARS!!! However that is long enough for all the children to have left home. Perhaps I shall replace them with cats? It's long enough to learn how to walk more by the Spirit instead of by sight. Maybe Brisbane will submerge completely & I will never have to drive in that horrible city again? Ten years is a long time. Almost anything can happen in 10 years. In ten years I went from single uni student to married with 4 kids!
Oh, my blogger profile... I didn't know it was still there. These are blogs I contribute to rather than actually write as I am largely incapable of writing consistently these days. I did start one of my own www.vyritsa.wordpress.com inspired by your 365 day chuckout but the most interesting thing on it so far is a cat's bottom. Thank you for your good wishes for our sisterhood, we would be most grateful for your prayers.
:0) Hi Ganeida - yes indeed, a lot can happen in ten years - or nothing much . . .
x
What is your sisterhood called, Margaret?
One never knows what will happen in ten years!
Oh this is a wonderful idea, Pen. I've popped over to the Seven Sisters before at your metioning. What a lovely blog, isn't it? Lovely people behind it you can tell.
I am going to have to mull over your question, but this is a very good exercise and I will undertake it. If you don't have dreams and vision of your future how are your dreams going to come true?!
I like your vision of yourself in 10 years on.
Oh, alright then. If you insist, I shall write books.
I wonder what they'll be about?
Ember, I so enjoy your posts. They challenge me, warm me, bless me. This one was especially enjoyable for some reason - maybe because I learned a bit more about you (I'm newer here). :-)
Ten years from now I would like:
1. to be able to consider moving to part-time work. I've just crossed into 50 and the work I do (though I enjoy it), does wear me out. I'd like to have less demands from work in 10 years.
2. to be more of a connoisseur of traveling in England. I've had the pleasure of traveling there several times and am coming again in May, but I hope to have had many more opportunities to get to know the countryside more within 10 years.
3. to weigh less. :-)
4. to have grown in wisdom, knowledge and favor with God (not concerned if I grow in favor of men . . . I just want the Lord to be pleased)
5. to savor what life has taught me and relish seeing the seasons of life pass as I will have become older and see more of these.
At nearly midnight here in Indiana, that is the best I can come up with after a particularly difficult day. I know as soon as I hit "publish your comment" I'll have more and more significant ones. Maybe I'll amend this list as they come. :-)
Hi ladies
Michelle - true indeed! It's a good thing we can't ever really know, I think.
Beth - yes - what we hope for, what we imagine, is quite revealing.
Rapunzel - all fiction (I do hope you'll be writing fiction) is about revealing truth. I think if you explore your truth and you discover who the characters are that chat inside your head, that will be a beginning. I find it goes best if I write from a live place inside myself; if I'm angry I wrote about being angry - so novels make excellent counsellors with the difference that they pay the bills instead of creating them :0)
Deb - I come across a lot said in the media about how young, fit and active older people are (70 is the new 40 etc), so I've been surprised to feel older and tireder than I expected in my fifties. I pray that God may help you find a way to move to part-time work, to make space for peace and reflection, as you enter your fifties. x
Thank you for asking. The sisterhood will be dedicated to St Bey and St Maura. I teased a monastic friend once about naming his (still in formation and as yet unnamed) community after two obscure Scottish women saints and later when I was relating the tale to my spiritual director he advised me not to get involved with a mixed community attached to a parish but to start a sisterhood and “name it after the two ladies.” Bey was a hermit on Little Cumbrae in the Firth of Clyde and Maura was one of her disciples who became abbess of a small community at what is know Kilmaurs (Cille Mhà ra) in Ayrshire but continued to visit Bey her whole life. I like them because they were friends as well as teacher and pupil and they represent, as solitary and abbess, both the major forms of the religious life.
I too like the Seven Sisters. I like their dresses. I wore those when I was young with straw hats instead of lace caps although I would have worn lace caps if I had known they existed outside Victorian novels. It was easy then, of course, with Laura Ashley supplying everything I could possibly want subject to my income. I had a beautiful Indian quilted jacket that I wore with a Laura Ashley Edwardian blouse and a homemade long skirt. Strange to think how counter-cultural it would be here nowadays. I can still remember the smell of the jacket and last time I was in Cambridge I went to the shop that sells expensive Indian quilts and when the assistant wasn't looking I inhaled them!
Oh yes, the smell of India at the Cambridge branch of Nomads! Heavenly! I was there last week.
I love the sound of St Bey and St Maura. May God bless and prosper your community.
In ten years time, I hope that ...
1) I will still have my lovely husband at my side - he has a life-long health issue that means he could very swiftly be taken from me at any time.
2) That I will have many grandchildren to love, hold and cuddle.
3) I will be wise, elegant, calm, inspiring, grace-full (well, I can dream!).
4) I will have grown in my spiritual walk with Jesus.
5) I also hope that Ember, Julie and I and assorted families could meet up in person.
Kay
I am still jumping through hoops in the educational and licensing systems trying to get to the point where I can do the job I am called to do. So, 10 years from now, I will have been done jumping, in the field about 8 1/2 years and thinking about semi-retirement! My stress levels will have dropped so I can fully resume my healthful diet and yoga practice and wear the kind of clothes I would like to wear. The family problem that has nibbled away at my composure like ravening rats will have completely resolved in a Godly manner, and we will be free to move to somewhere warmer and gentler. I will live simpler with less stuff, and be able to have the windows open to the ocean-smelling breeze and birdsong most of the year. Technology will have stood still long enough for me to catch up with it. It is a fallen world, so my expectations of peace and clean air and water are low, but I will be doing better with blaming the true cause and not the perpetrators. I will have free time and can write, and learn to weave. However if If this is "middle age" I will have to live to be 118! DMW
Hi friends - Aye and Amen! Amen! xx
Just wondering, why you need to put off getting a dog?
DMW
:0)
Well, five of us share this house together and we have two VERY doted on and VERY spoiled cats! I would love a dog, but though I go out very little and work from home, my time is pressed into service most of the day. I am the only person in the house who actually wants a dog, though the others have said they don't mind if I do and my dear Badger says he would get behind such a project. The garden needs some more fencing to make the boundaries high enough. I spend much of the day typing in my tiny room. When I go out I'm usually flying out the door in haste to be somewhere. Because I have no car most trips are on public transport or on foot,which takes longer, leaving less of the day (or energy) for leisurely walks - and most outings are either grocery shopping, visiting my beautiful mama, church meetings or funerals; I couldn't rely on a dog being the kind of person who could come along to such things. Plus I am HOPELESS at training dogs. All my dogs have been loving, co-operative and responsive, but not exactly compliant if you know what I mean. They would always listen, but they regarded my ideas as suggestions rather than commands. Plus my income is titchy, and i'd want to feed a dog the best quality food, which could be expensive. For all those reasons I am dithering! But I look longingly at the dog rescue sites photos. I know just what I need - a quiet, gentle dog that is okay with cats and small children and already trained to walk on the lead, already neutered so I don;t have the anguish of that appalling decision. A dog with the right look in its eye.
Hi Ember,
I understand your dilemma. We have had many dogs and a few cats over the years and have now chosen to remain petlesss (although we are temporarily pet-sitting our daughter's fat, lazy blue tongued skink). I am at home a lot presently because I am finishing my education, but I will be returning to full time work soon, which is no time to try to train a puppy. Our last dog, a beagle mix, was a favorite who lived with several family members due to shifting circumstances and even survived a house fire but we lost her to cancer 7 months after. Our grown son has has both a cat and dog we can visit if we need a pet fix.We will consider another dog when my husband retires.DMW
:0) x
"Lead, Kindly Light" was Mahatma Gandhi's favorite Christian hymn.
:0) That's so good to hear! A hero of mine!
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