Tuesday, 18 November 2025

The book of life

Revelation 20.12 (NIV):
Another book was opened, which is the book of life.

My great-grandmother, Louisa Ellen Hird (née Thornton, and known as Nellie) was born in 1877. Her father owned the mill at Cottingley in West Yorkshire, and that was where she grew up.

Here she is with her sisters, the one on the far right.


I was lucky to have known her when I was a child, by which time she was the only one left of those sisters in the photograph.

My mother loved her dearly, and when I was a child I heard so much about her and her life, about my mother's childhood on the farm in the same village where Nellie Hird lived once she was married. Everything about the lives of my mother and her sisters, and my mother's mother, and her mother — Nellie — and Nellie's mother, Mary Gott, was so vivid to me, woven into my making as a person, my attitudes to life. Here is Mary Gott, my great-great-grandmother, sitting on the steps of their home at Cottingley with her daughters. Nellie is sitting next to her mother.


It was because my mother loved her family so much, and we spent our school holidays up in Yorkshire with them, and I heard so much about them, that they became part of me and I became part of them.

When I grew up and married, I had five daughters of my own, and sometimes I wonder if they will be known and loved and remembered, or if they and I will just be like waves on the sea that arise and are lost, indistinguishable from all the others, here for a moment then merged with the great ocean as if they had never existed.

In this video, my daughter Alice is playing the bodhran, and Grace is playing the piano, and Hebe (who you might not even notice if you don't have sharp eyes) is turning the pages of Grace's music for her, and singing alto.




I love that video. It catches a moment in time, a memory. Because not that many people know our Alice well. 

She is an artist, who makes the most beautiful things. Here's an icon she painted.


And another one.



Here's a stained glass panel she designed and made.



And another one (this one, of St Joseph, is in the enclosure with the Carmelites at Thicket Priory at Thorganby near York)


Here's a stone she cut and gilded..



Here's a panel she painted for an Orthodox Church (the one on the right. Her sister Hebe painted the one on the left).


They work together.


Something I love in the video where she's playing the bodhran (she also plays the hurdy-gurdy and the French horn and the guitar and the flute) is that it brings out something of her personality — is her stance (she is also a dancer) — and her strength; because there never was a brighter soul or more true and clear.

The thing is, Alice is a quiet person. Very few people know her at all, and even fewer know how funny she is and how original in her thinking, what extraordinary poetry she writes — a person who thinks outside the box and is full of surprises — and how pure and authentic is her faith. 

So I was thinking about how these people, these individual lives, these bright flashes of creation and personality, arise so vivid and then they go, like shooting stars, the gift of a moment, coming out of the darkness and back into it again.

Who is there to remember them, to catch and treasure what they were?

Alice is so very like my Auntie Jessie, my mother's sister, who was my godmother, and I remember her so clearly — she was gentle, she was funny, she was perceptive and kind.

Only a handful of people in the whole earth ever knew my Auntie Jessie or are left to remember her. And yet, she was lovely.

But there is this; these souls, so dear, so loved, with so bright and clear a radiance — their names are written in the book of life.

For life is eternal; and love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.

(Rossiter Raymond) 

 


10 comments:

  1. How wonderful! I wish I could be familiar with great-grandmothers... Alas, they did not live to see my birth. But there are photos, they are so interesting to look at! The old photos are generally interesting, even the people there seem to be different, not to mention the clothes. The past is such an amazing thing...

    By the way, how are our dear brothers doing there? I'm currently wandering with the garden of imagination in the other direction, since it's big, but I'm always ready to hear something about them.

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  2. ❤️ Я совершенно застрял на книге, которую должен написать. Полный тупик, нечего сказать.
    Но если у вас есть к ним вопросы, я с радостью загляну в четырнадцатый век и посмотрю, что они скажут.

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    1. A dead end is bad. What, no ideas at all? Can we still figure something out?

      I have nothing to ask yet. I'm a bit stuck in another time period - the early 19th century. I read one book, and then a couple more for information... You can get stuck there for a long time, there is a lot of information. I also study the history of education, and there are so many interesting things there too... And now my questions are the ones that can't be answered from the 14th century...

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  3. 🤣 Мы застряли на наших отдельных островах!

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    1. It looks like this :) The book about the 19th century ends like this: "... high literature is designed to fill in the gaps, pushing the boundaries of what our poor language is able to express, denoting the subtlest shades of experience.… But genre literature serves an equally lofty purpose – it is compassionate to man. After all, even indicated by the right word, the experience is sometimes unbearable. And then we don't need surgical precision of the word – it doesn't quench the pain. We just need a break, someone else's story inside our own head. The journey that our consciousness makes by disconnecting from what is happening around us. A journey that both the reader and the writer embark on. Because the author here is not a third-rate fakir, plunging you into a literary trance. The author is as much a victim of reality as the reader. Together, they try to hide in the now–defunct western provinces of the now–defunct empire, to catch their breath in the forgotten century before last - in its way of life and style; tasting them, imbued with dilemmas alien to our era between duty and feeling, feeling and honor, honor and death." In my opinion, well said. Let's go on a journey again...

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  4. Thank you for sharing the stories of your family. I’ve always been in awe of the talent within your family 💕💕

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    1. "We just need a break, someone else's story inside our own head."
      Я пришел к убеждению, что вымысла не существует. Теперь я думаю, что истории, которые мы рассказываем, — это указатели надежды; что их цель — выйти за рамки частных исторических деталей, дать нам общее представление (взгляд сверху), помочь нам найти путь.
      И я думаю, что дверь — путь внутрь — это воображение.
      Воображение — это портал трансформации.
      Вот почему история нужна для общения и раскрытия истины.

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  5. Well, yes, sort of. That's why I divide books into those that point the way and those that are not clear why they were written :)

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    1. О! Я только что закончил писать часть своей следующей истории, в которой брат Кормак размышляет о том, что значит быть — и становиться — чистым (clear).

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