tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post6076662475819132589..comments2023-12-18T17:32:03.325+00:00Comments on Kindred of the Quiet Way: Long tailsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-81444847958885501132017-10-27T10:17:59.536+01:002017-10-27T10:17:59.536+01:00Oh yes. As I write this reply, I am sitting in my ...Oh yes. As I write this reply, I am sitting in my rocking chair with a homemade cookie just out of the oven, and a cup of nettle tea, waiting while Episode 3 (Belmont Abbey) downloads. I loved yesterday's from Pluscarden. Thanks for the heads-up! xxPen Wilcockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818227904371811230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-73593184390463288572017-10-26T21:25:35.789+01:002017-10-26T21:25:35.789+01:00Hello Pen. Just wondered if you had seen this
BBC...Hello Pen. Just wondered if you had seen this<br /><br />BBC Four - Retreat: Meditations from a Monastery<br /><br />It's really interesting - no commentary. Just lets it be. We are watching on catch upNearly Marthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01594432566473391552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-87023205035490146832017-10-18T18:43:17.687+01:002017-10-18T18:43:17.687+01:00:0)
xx:0)<br /><br />xxPen Wilcockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818227904371811230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-39457148789500601572017-10-18T16:50:48.373+01:002017-10-18T16:50:48.373+01:00I was, coincidentally, in bed on the floor when I ...I was, coincidentally, in bed on the floor when I read your reply to my comment :) You are so right in what you say, and I suppose there's that potential for the need for compromise in any paid work to some extent, and the fear of being turfed out - whether that has financial, professional, personal or social consequences - can indeed feel as if it's too much to countenance. Liberation from those shackles can feel both freeing and terrifying, but the more I read your blog, the more convinced I am about the importance of simplicity and the widespread effect it can have on many areas of a person's life. Thank you, as ever, for your wise words. Fionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16770105937876404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-63605643093087489542017-10-16T21:39:25.165+01:002017-10-16T21:39:25.165+01:00God bless you Bethany. May you have courage for ev...God bless you Bethany. May you have courage for every day, and good companions on your journey. xPen Wilcockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818227904371811230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-3218325192707822082017-10-16T21:34:33.493+01:002017-10-16T21:34:33.493+01:00On the heels of a season of brokenness and loss, I...On the heels of a season of brokenness and loss, I've come again to your novel, "The Clear Light of Day" for solace. My story has its particulars, but I know you understand the universals--the struggle to find room for vocation in an institution, the grief of walking away from the institution only to feel pressed out of the circle of connection with loved ones. With as much as I've resonated with your writing over the years, both here and in your published work, I'm not surprised that today's post struck home so soundly. Thank you for asking the questions. Thank you for ministering to me as I ask them in my life too.Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06453157986225893947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-6592211581383709682017-10-16T21:17:16.364+01:002017-10-16T21:17:16.364+01:00My youngest child occasionally bit people when she...My youngest child occasionally bit people when she was very small, and has grown up into one of the earth's gentlest and most understanding people. Young children can be so alarming!!Pen Wilcockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818227904371811230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-78365689920172527712017-10-16T21:13:01.965+01:002017-10-16T21:13:01.965+01:00I follow some of the advice I have been given by S...I follow some of the advice I have been given by Save the Children. Talk about the body, teach names of body parts early, learn about how the body works including genitals. Talk about good and bad secrets with adults. Allow body integrity and to not have to hug people etc.) Learn that it is OK to say no to things and to do so firmly. My own additions to the material is to try to also make her the expert on her body, she knows if something is wrong and so on. She is 5 so of course it doesn't work all the time but much of it even with a young kid. I feel that while they do give good advice it sometimes sounds so negative with regards to the body, that it needs protection, people need to be told no with regards to it and so on. It is important but the body does have "yes-rights" too even for 5 year olds. <br /><br />One perhaps controversial thing I have done is that I have told my daughter that she is allowed to hit boys who don't listen to her or the teachers. I explained that some children unfortunately only listen to their own language and that sometimes the only way someone learns not to hit is to be hit back. She is five now but I just cannot give her the message that boys are allowed to hit her for whatever reason they do it. We can understand why they do it and try to do something about it before it happens or with non-violent methods first but she is allowed to defend herself too. <br /><br />My son will hear no such things, society will be much more accepting of any violent streaks in him. He is just one now and in a phase which involves biting and pinching. I try to stop the behavior before it happens or avoid situations which stimulate this but I remember that his sister was the same way the same age and it did grow away. They have not said anything at preschool either so I assume it is not a thing there right now at least. He mainly bites me at home so I think it is something he actually does as a frustration thing towards me who he is safe with rather than other people. Elinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06401440551873070129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-64397851966836917282017-10-16T20:53:16.532+01:002017-10-16T20:53:16.532+01:00There's a saying, "She who sleeps on the ...There's a saying, "She who sleeps on the floor will never fall out of bed", and I think that expresses well the link between simplicity and integrity. If we live humbly and low, integrity can be easier to afford. It's one of the reasons I feel uneasy about paid church ministry - there are times when, if your family's home and income are both at stake, telling the truth will prove so expensive that keeping quiet takes on a very attractive aspect. Authoritarian institutions (that's any kind of institution) are dangerous places to roost.Pen Wilcockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818227904371811230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55532501364780143.post-14051390115805033212017-10-16T20:25:04.796+01:002017-10-16T20:25:04.796+01:00What you have written in this post is also much on...What you have written in this post is also much on my own mind at the moment, and I agree with you that equipping the vulnerable with the strength and assertiveness to respond to manipulation and potential abuse is vital. I too have known more than one teacher who has been in the position you describe, and I despair to see people wrongly coerced into obedience and acquiescence by those who are ostensibly more powerful and authoritative than those from whom they demand and expect those things. I have no idea what the solution is, but integrity is always the better way. Fionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16770105937876404823noreply@blogger.com