A
couple of posts ago I wrote a piece called The Four Minimalists, thinking about
different approaches to living simply. In the comment thread, Heather wrote
this:
“I find myself confused. I found the de-cluttering
process hard going but cathartic, as if I had streamlined my whole body by
getting rid of unwanted 'noise' in the house. But now, as I come to the end of
the journey I am starting to feel that I need to do something to make it
reflect back our personality, which is something of my new resolution.
Perversely, there is a part of my that longs to have Molly Weasley's house!”
I know just what she
means.
KonMari (I love her!) has taken the
de-cluttering world by storm, resulting in social media abounding with
before-and-after photos of homes pared to the bone. Kitchens with nothing on
view but the fitted cabinets. Living rooms with a couch and a TV. And maybe a
plant. Hallways with a small corner cupboard supporting an ornament. Maybe. Or
just the cupboard.
I guess what happens is
that after a while people settle back into their space, and it begins to feel
homely again.
I thought I’d share
some pics of the living space I share with the Badger, to propose an
alternative take on things – a fusion of minimalism and simplicity without
necessarily being very tidy or even all that clean. It needs dusting right now, and I have done nothing whatever to tidy it. But it looks okay because we haven't enough stuff to make a mess.
He and I have a small
attic apartment in a house where four other people live. Space is at a premium,
so it’s no good accumulating stuff. I am into minimalism, because I believe in
it passionately as the gateway to sharing, part of my spiritual discipline,
very freeing – and because I don’t like housework and ‘stuff’ does my head in.
The Badger is different. He is willing to live as simply as our situation
requires of him, is willing to share all he has with as many people as it will
stretch round, but has no special feeling for minimalism as a guiding star. In
fact he rather likes collections – his collection of books, his collection of
CDs, his collection of elephants being only examples.
So this is how we live.
On the way up the the
narrow winding stairway leading to our attic you come to the turn, where we
have what we call our ‘archive’ (because that’s what it is). All the files
relating to church and home records are there.
Moving on, alongside
the stairway is a narrow shelf. The Badger has fixed a mirror to the wall
there, which acts as my dressing table. You can just see the corner of our laundry bag; it hangs in the stairwell on a hook fixed into the outside of the banister rail.
At the top of the
stairs is a landing, an ante-room to our main room. That’s where we sleep.
In our main room we
have a sitting area with the shelves for the Badger's books.
Opposite is the wardrobe
the Badger built for me where I keep my clothes, and his study corner.
The rafters are handy
for drying towels.
The Badger and I both
work from home, and he’s a publisher, so at any given time he has a stack of
papers by his desk. A printer is vital to what we do. So is a waste paper bin. The step stool is essential for opening the windows.
I have books too. The
bottom shelf has mine, and along the top are the papers for my mother’s care
and my Methodist Circuit resources.
I have a study corner
of my own.
We also have some
kitchen stuff in a box room improvised into a kitchen. We don’t need much – a
fridge, a mini-cooker, a table and chairs, some storage shelves (the Badger made them). There’s no
sink, but that’s no big deal. We get water from the bathroom and wash up on the
table top.
So this is not Konmari
territory, it’s a bit sloppier than that, but it is living simply, with all the
advantages of minimal housework, space-sharing, frugality and earth-friendliness.
And my minimalism nests like a Russian doll inside the Badger’s simplicity. If
we both had the number of belongings he has, we wouldn’t fit in our space. He’s
very fair minded and kind, so if I had more things he’d trim his possessions to
accommodate them; but as I haven’t, he’s glad to keep his bits and pieces
because he likes them. Some of our things are mine, though; the round table and the big rug, the coverlet and the little table at the foot of our bed. I do have some stuff, and he doesn't have much. And the Badger is buying me a comfy blue armchair to sit in, but we haven't got it yet. I generally like to get second hand or homemade things, but the armchair is coming from Ikea, because our staircase is too small to get an already-made chair up.
Mindset is part of all this.
If we had to move into somewhere smaller still, we know how to do it. He’d
transition entirely from books to Kindle, from CDs to i-Tunes, say a sad
goodbye to his elephants and small store of memorabilia. I’d pare down my
wardrobe a little more. But meanwhile, as we have thought long and hard about
what we own, and like our place to look like a home not a prison cell, this is
how we do things. If these photos come up big for you (I don't know if they do), you'll see that what the Badger has there on that unit where he keeps his socks and undies is a bottle of whisky and a bottle of cough medicine. Not ideal, I know . . .
Yes - I see here that your house very definitely has personality that mine lacks - so you have merged the two aspects that I am striving for. It is my resolution for this year to make just this sort of fusion. Just this week, looking hard at my house, it dawned on me there was very definitely a difference between clutter to be released and mess that requires a proper but accessible home - and that means storage ideas. Not just shoving stuff in random drawers, but storage solutions for recurrent issues; which for us means things like paperwork and my crafting materials - all of which are strewn about making the house a tip.
ReplyDeleteSo before I do anything - this is my first port of call. I feel very energised to be tackling the house at long last instead of co existing with something I was learning to despise.
And thank you - because I have found you in particular something of an inspiration.
Heather
Thank you - I am so very rarely useful!
ReplyDeleteA person in her home - this is something reciprocal. The person and the home choose each other and shape each other. The home develops according to the personality and how she lives her life. But she must also shape her choices within the boundaries of her chosen space. Then there is harmony.
As you know this is something I continue to struggle with and fight with, not least because we are at two opposite ends of the scale. But slowly, through communication, we are working it out and creating a home we are both happy in with neither of us feeling deprived or pushed against!
ReplyDeletei looked long and hard at the photo of molly weasely's house and i see exactly what heather means. it's still simple but it shines with warmth and welcome. perhaps the key is colour and comfort? in my upstairs hermitage i have icons, books, some brightly patterned dishes, handmade afghans and candles. there isn't a LOT of any one thing but together they feel homey. it's easy to clean, organised, as well as having plenty of natural light for my plants. oh, i forgot the plants! there are several of them as well . . . and tins of tea plus teapot and cups . . . and a very large cat :) how i wish that we could all gather for tea just like the four friends.
ReplyDeleteHi Jen - yes, I think feeling the way towards mutuality is always worthwhile. I always get that 'Uh-oh' feeling when I read women ranting on Facebook about their untidy and hoarding husbands obstructing their path to freedom! The respect implicit in communication is key. x
ReplyDeleteHi Gretchen - 'colour . . . comfort . . . plants' - absolutely! In Konmari's books, these are exactly the features she urges people to include as part of their expression of joy in their home environment. x
Great post, Pen, thanks. Love the bit about your minimalism nesting in the Badger's simplicity! 😄 Going off on a tangent, where do you get your calligraphic 'paintings', like in the first picture? Does one of your lovely daughters make them? I'd really like one for my " it doesn't matter, It's not important, God is" ❤️❤️ xx
ReplyDeleteYes, our Alice made the "Set your house in order" calligraphy for me. x
ReplyDeleteMindset is a HUGE part of it all! (And I, too, liked the imagery of your minimalism resting in the Badger's simplicity.) This morning, I pecked away at my cupboard FULL to overflowing of cottage cheese containers - large ones and small ones - and their lids that have accumulated for far too long.... I'd like a look at Gretchen's upstairs hermitage. I get a lot of inspiration from visual sources, and hers sounds so interesting.
ReplyDeleteCottage cheese containers! Mine is foil baking trays. I feel terrible about one-use packaging, and try to get several goes out of each pack I buy. The problem is, as we have got older and downsized, cooking for two in a tiny kitchen with no sink, and with only a tiny freezer, batch-baking is impractical - in fact any serious cooking is a challenge. While I cook our veggies from scratch, I often get the protein part of the meal (meat, fish, or something in cheese sauce) as a ready-cooked item from the store. So I accumulate these foil trays. They come in handy for the cooking I do - like grilled bacon, jacket potatoes, bread-and-butter pudding sometimes - but I have way more than I need. Sometimes they come in handy to feed the fox.
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