That quotation, "Problems arise when things accumulate", is from Toinette Lippe's book Nothing Left Over. It's about twenty years since I read it (and where did that time go?) and I'm going to look it out and read it again because it's an excellent book.
So, here on Kindred of the Quiet Way, Sarah and I have been talking about the curation of possessions and the ongoing struggle of managing a home inhabited by a family with all the usual possessions and treasures that go with living in a consumer society resourced by mass production.
This conversation sent my mind down the pathways of how I personally manage stuff, because I was advocating a practice of divesting oneself of belongings to reclaim space and peace and freedom — and I thought maybe I should take a look at my own stuff and see what needed sorting out.
I wondered if you'd like to come with me on the journey and see where that took me today.
To have in the back of your mind is that in our church there's a young man who has become a friend. I've been worried about him because he's been homeless and sleeping on the street and hasn't had enough to eat. Then in the last week or two I heard that he'd been able to get an apartment so then I wondered if he has furniture and kitchen things.
Everything commenced right there.
In my room I have built-in wardrobes and shelves, but the moveable furniture is a bed, a chair, a normal-sized chest of drawers, and a narrow chest of drawers.
I don't need the chair —
— Clarence (our cat) sleeps on it sometimes just for a change, but usually he sleeps on the bed.
So we can offer the chair to our friend for his new apartment — and we also have a surplus one-person slow cooker, and a toaster; he can have those too if he'd like them.
But I think maybe he could do with a chest of drawers. Our car is too small for the big one, and it's too heavy for Tony and me to move now we're old and decrepit, but the narrow one is light, so he could have that. The only problem is it's full of stuff. And the bigger one also has stuff in it, though I did do a clothing cull the other day, so it's got a bit less stuff than before. But I still need to make space to put the stuff from the smaller one.
So look — this is how it went.
The top of my big chest of drawers was covered with things.
I asked myself, do I need all that stuff? Do I use all those things? And my first reaction was — absolutely; yes. Let me give you a closer look.
Here's what there is. My glass of water and my comb, the big glass I use for an earring stand, my water bottle, a badge, a notebook and pens, a CD someone kindly gave me (but I don't have a CD player so it's just sitting there because I can't listen to it), a letter from the Benedictines at Wass waiting for me to read it, some inspirational Thich Nhat Hanh calligraphy, my Kindle e-reader (never use it, doesn't keep its charge, I read e-books on my laptop), and the three TENS machines I use in sequence to alleviate my health condition, plus the attachment pads that go with the machines. I want those (TENS kit) available for immediate access because I use them every day and every night at the present time.
Above the chest of drawers there's this little shelf unit (Tony made it for me ❤️)
Looking at the shelf unit I saw that there are several lipsticks/blushsticks. We've lived in this house a year and I've only used one of them, and not very often. But in the past I've binned lipsticks and then wished I hadn't and bought new ones, so I think I'll quarantine the surplus ones rather than throw them out just yet. So I put them in this little bag, in the top drawer of my chest of drawers.
When I opened that drawer to find a space to put the lipsticks (the bag was already in that drawer), I realised I'd have to make a space, not find one.
So I looked to see what else I had in there. There was a fan in a case (bought several years ago, never used), some clips to turn coat hangers into skirt hangers — not very effective, but they'll work as laundry pegs and we're short of those, so I took them down to the kitchen to go with the laundry things. And there was another lip balm in a colour I don't like, so I binned it.
I went through the drawers of the bigger c.o.d, to see what I could move on.
Several really good bras. I bought them in an attempt to improve my appearance but the problem with bras is that in order to achieve the required uplift they have to be slightly smaller than one's body. So, no. I am too old to be uncomfortable. They are nearly new, so I put them out in the charity bag — they don't normally take underwear these days, but I bet their staff go through stuff that comes in and might like them.
I read and binned the letter (I've cleaned my address off the front for the pic) and took the CD downstairs to the bookshelf — it's of our family singing, so I want to keep it and figure out how to listen to it.
In sorting out all this stuff I came upon the fixing tool, spare fixtures, and assembly instructions for the small chest of drawers, so I put them in the now empty top drawer.
The next drawer down of the small chest of drawers had socks, and there was room for those in the middle drawer of the big chest of drawers, which was already half-empty anyway. In that drawer I also put the winter hats in a packing cube I had.
And all that took me only about half an hour, has freed up a chest of drawers for someone just coming out of homelessness, pruned out my accumulated clutter, and made my space more peaceful. Plus, once the chair and small c.o.d. have gone, my room will be more spacious and easier to keep clean.
I'm well happy with that, and very grateful to Sarah for making me think about it.
12 comments:
Ah Pen you’ve made me smile today and it was so needed 💕. I will write a post today since you’ve given me a nudge.
You did a fantastic job with decluttering and reorganising so that you could bless someone else. I love your room it exudes peace and that calligraphy sign says it all 🙂.
These past few days I’ve reorganised the freezer and used up items to make room for some pre prepped meals. The newly organised freezer now contains 8 boxes of different soups ( each box will serve two portions), 4 packages of butternut squash galette, cheese and chive scones and several packages of sunflower seeds bread. As a result of the clear out I defrosted figs from last year’s harvest and made Fig and Ginger Jam. The rhubarb and apple made a crumble for tea and the left over portions were frozen for another time. I sat on my perching stool to cook and did my best to cook in stages over several days. Being purposeful and in the kitchen helped with the grief I’m encountering of Mum no longer being here. Sometimes you do just have to do ‘the next right thing’ in order to keep afloat.
Happy Pentecost Sunday
Love San xx
"The next right thing." Absolutely. Amen. That's how we get there — one step at a time. xx
💕💕. Looking forward to another documented ‘clear out’ post when you are next in the mood 🙂. Way back when you did a whole year of decluttering one item each day.
My outside work room is a dreaded ‘holding zone’ of things waiting to be sent to the charity shop and items good enough to post on eBay, I reckon that will be my next right thing xxx
Excellent work! And what a lovely gift to your friend. I liked reading through your thought process. It makes me want to pounce on some unsuspecting corner of my house and gently yeet its contents into the next stop on their journey. ;)
Yay! Go, San! Next right thing!
That right there — that's exactly the thing — what it says in the Bible: "Encourage one another". Talking to each other about it gets us in the mood and keeps us on the pathway.
One drawer. One surface. Even one object. Or a one-in-two-out system to give us back our space and our sanity. ❤️
Hello, Penelope. This is nothing to do with your blog but a thank you on behalf of a church homegroup, based on Wirral, but largely operating using Zoom to include the likes of me, who lives in Zimbabwe (long story), for your small group Bible Study book which we have used for a number of years and have just completed (most of the studies, if not all). It has always provided thoughtful, helpful discussion. Thank you and God bless you.
Waving to you across the world, Richard — thank you for getting in touch. I'm so glad you found the Bible studies helpful.
Hello Pen!
Quite impressive!
I so enjoyed the earlier blog of “Going Home Early” and the earlier blog on “Quietness” I have read several times and have shared with our cat loving family. I am heading down country roads today to visit with my husbands sisters who still live on farms. I think about the accumulated things that we have around us and most everything is purposeful and shared. So most things I own have been given or shared for a time. What I struggle with has always been about wondering when to let go. I am not very good at knowing what is to keep and let go and can easily get overwhelmed. I’m guessing there are others like myself. I have depended on one of my daughters and one of my friends to yearly work through the accumulation and how wonderful there are many organizations that can give or sell these things to those in need.
Grief is part of the process…I kept a pair of my mothers shoes in my closet for about 4 years…I wear a sweater of my father’s and keep that in my closet…I think there is so many layers of detaching and letting go.
I guess I’m expressing I’ve read many good books, I’ve lived in simplicity, and I’ve always needed the encouragement and support of another who knows me and comes alongside in this process.
I choose quietness… your words is a perfect place to enter in.
Thank you
Krista
Hi Krista — waving to you! I hope you have a lovely time visiting with the farm sisters.Where you say "I am not very good at knowing what is to keep and let go", that so resonates with me.
Back in 2008 sort of time, I re-homed a beautiful ceramic bowl (very ingeniously built) that Hebe had made, and a slumped glass bowl Alice made. I've regretted that ever since, and never got over the sadness of letting them go. In the same way I gave away two stained glass panels and an oil-painting made by my prayer partner Margery. She did the painting at the end of the 1930s and the glass panels in the 1980s. I loved both the people and the things so much that it felt like an amputation of sorts to give these things away. But how could I travel light if I hadn't done so? I have lived in situations where my allocation of personal space has been so small, and I have made such gains for us all by doing so, that I hope it was worthwhile. There are other things I keep — every single pair of socks Alice has knitted for me, and shawl Grace knitted, and two waistcoats Alice made. I will always keep them because I can tuck them away with my winter woollies in the drawer — there's space.
Other things I treasure — I have necklaces and earrings Alice and Hebe made me (beautiful); I have a pair of earrings Hebe brought back for me from my mother's apartment after my mother died. Bad things happened such that I didn't go there myself and wanted no momentos, but it touched me that Hebe remembered me and thought I should have something as well. And then I have a bracelet I've kept for over thirty years that my youngest daughter Fi gave me when she was seven. We went to a Christian festival where there were stalls with various wares on sale, including jewellery. Each of our children had been given ten pounds to spend on herself. I had been admiring the bracelet, which cost seven pounds, and Fi, just a little girl, spent nearly all her money buying it for me. It's not the items, it's the love, it's the people, that make these things into treasure.
I am in the midst of clutter again. But it's not all mine. My daughter is staying with me at the moment (she has a lot of stuff), and I am storing some things for other family members.
I've been working on my clothes, which I continue to whittle down and streamline. I dislike having to think about what I am going to wear. So, I'm basically long skirts and tops and eliminating the rest. I bought some mix and match skirts and tops from: https://www.etsy.com/au/shop/DaughtersforHisglory
Michaela does lovely sewing in cotton/linen fabric and the skirts are lined. Very comfortable and versatile.
Then there are the books I need to cull, and knitting yarn to sort...
But first I need a coffee :)
Waving back at you Pen! xx
Lynda by the river! Hello! Lovely to hear from you. Nice to have your daughter staying with you even if it means fitting in her belongings.
This is exactly one of the benefits I've found to travelling light. We want the people to come, and stay as long as they like, and go when they're ready, and all of us to have little enough that everyone ad everything can be easily fitted in. I get twitchy about the idea of a person's home being used as storage for other people's things, though.
Thank you for the Etsy link — that one's new to me. Nice clothes, and I like the idea of mix and match tops and skirts. I've been making my own skirts, partly because I want a particular style (very full, brought in by box pleats 4" in length at the top) that I can't find to buy anywhere — though these modest styles do seem to be recently back in fashion – and partly because I enjoy hand-sewing just as a thing to do.
Blessings on your day (or, I suppose — sleep well!) xxx
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