Have you read Jane Austen's book Persuasion? Or if you're not an avid reader, have you seen one of the movies made of that story?
If you have, you might remember the bit at the beginning where Sir Walter Elliot considers leaving Kellynch Hall.
In case you don't know this story, I'll explain about the bit I mean.
Sir Walter Elliot, a pretentious English gentleman, presides over a household that has been living beyond its means. They come to a point where the stew has hit the fan, as it were, and necessity to cut back on expenditure becomes not only evident but actually urgent.
Their sensible family friend Lady Russell is on the case — gloriously described as being "of sound rather than quick abilities". She concludes this:
They must retrench; that did not admit of a doubt. But she was very anxious to have it done with the least possible pain to him...
So Lady Russell consults with Sir Walter's daughter Anne (the heroine of the novel), and Anne has some far-reaching cuts in mind. Lady Russell proposes a more diluted way forward, but even her gentler scheme is received with horror:
How Anne's more rigid requisitions might have been taken is of little consequence. Lady Russell's had no success at all: could not be put up with, were not to be borne. 'What! Every comfort of life knocked off! Journeys, London, servants, horses, table, — contractions and restrictions every where. To live no longer with the decencies even of a private gentleman! No, he would sooner quit Kellynch Hall at once, than remain in it on such disgraceful terms.'
Coming back now from Persuasion (it's a good book — I recommend!) to the present day, my guess is that 'retrenching' will be on a lot of people's minds.
From the day I was born right up to the present moment, I have never had a large income. This of itself has been an absolute blessing, because my mother and her mother and her mother were the people who ran their household budgets, and my word, did they know how to make the money stretch!
So I've never had a lot of money, but never did the money I had buy less than it does right now. I am assuming this is also true for you, regardless of your level of income. But with all that's going on in the world, I think we can safely conclude that present circumstances are only the beginning.
This is where retrenching comes in.
Back in 2009 I wrote a book called In Celebration of Simplicity, which was exactly what it says on the tin — about living simply and why it's a good thing. It's out of print now and will remain so, because my editor had a rush of blood to the head and made its layout so complicated that I don't think our self-publishing programme can handle it. But second-hand copies are still around.
Then ten years after I'd written that book, it dawned on me that I'd overlooked a vital component. Living simply is powerful and effective, but there's a prerequisite (the part Sir Walter Elliot couldn't stomach): what Jane Austen called retrenchment and I've called relinquishment. So I wrote a second book, Relinquishment, about the art of letting go, which — once I'd thought about it — I realised was an essential first step of practicing simplicity.
The thing about retrenchment or relinquishment is that it can't be done fast. People cling tenaciously to their habits and their comforts and their expectations, and detaching oneself from all the nice things one is used to enjoying is hard to do and impossible to do overnight.
Why I'm saying this is to flag up that this may be the season to retrench, to relinquish. As the cost of living goes up like a rocket, prices rise and income shrinks and taxes increase, obviously we have to be able to manage on less — and my experience suggests this can only be done incrementally. As we gradually progress in managing without things we've always had and assumed we always would have, we become more adept at finding alternatives — cabbage not avocado, for example, or a homemade omelette not a store-bought quiche, or a friend round for a cup of tea in the back garden rather than meeting up at a café in town. But it's slow, it's gradual, and what makes it especially hard is that we take for granted what we habitually do, and our expectations have conditioned us; we are at first blind to the possibilities and alternatives.
So I'm thinking that now is the time to start. Even if you think you're already good at it, look again, re-evaluate. Keep a ledger if you don't already, and review your expenditure regularly and often. Take advantage of the many books and YouTube videos that talk about living frugally; even if you know it all anyway, it psychs you up to whatever needs addressing next. Then you will keep ahead of the curve and not be caught out by hard times.
Retrenchment, and therefore relinquishment, I suspect may be the order of the day. And I do recommend Persuasion, whether the book or one of the movies made from it. Excellent story.
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I don't think any movie can replace Jane Austen's style. Although, of course, you can watch it after reading the book :)
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I have had Relinquishment since it was published and today I found a good used copy of In Celebration of Simplicity to order just now. We are steadily retrenching here and it feels like a game we are playing, strategizing how to enjoy good, healthy food and find simple entertainment at home that doesn’t cost the earth.
I love that I remember what my grandmothers and mother did with home economics. They came through wars and the Great Depression with confident smiles and no-nonsense attitudes. I’m happy to dig into the past learn from them.
Everything you say here resonates for me. Like you, it feels like a game to me — I imagine it could feel a lot more grim if we had to live with serious shortages, but for the time being we can do do serious things playfully, and celebrate small wins.
And, yes, we are so lucky in our generation that we have the memories, the template, of former times still within living memory. Even just that we remember life before the electronic revolution is of great value. The days when all you needed was a pack of cards and an acoustic guitar and some friends round.
I’m so blessed that you gifted me a copy of ‘In Celebration of Simplicity’ 💕💕.
I agree with you there is a wealth of information at or fingertips - books, blogs and YouTube. Changing one’s mindset is key and as you’ve said for some it doesn’t happen overnight and adjustments are made gradually. Over the years we’ve dealt with all sorts of sudden and unforeseen events that have necessitated a rapid rethink on our part - necessity really is the mother of invention and thanks be to God, we e come through pretty unscathed 🙂
Thanks for the book recommendation
San xx
Where you say "Over the years we’ve dealt with all sorts of sudden and unforeseen events that have necessitated a rapid rethink on our part - necessity really is the mother of invention and thanks be to God, we've come through pretty unscathed" — that's really interesting. Might you consider an article on your own blog looking into some of these things? I'd love to read something like that.
Thanks for your encouraging words Pen, I will have to have a think about what I could say that would actually be of use to anyone reading. Ironically it is through reading your blog and other really good sources of information that gave me the tools to manage! I guess it always comes down to the phrase “ cut your cloth according to your width.” You’ve given me food for thought though and if nothing else I could share resources I’ve read be it books or blogs that might help others xx
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Hello Pen, I am feeling the pull, even the guilt, to retrench. I spent the entirety of Saturday emptying out our storage unit (an invention that I am ethically at odds with in the first place). $240 worth of help + $80 rental truck + minimal family time + a nutso argument with my husband + a sore back = 95% increase of all the crap I can do without in the first place, settled squarely back on our property.
I want to retrench deeply, fill it with water, and throw it all in!
I read Persuasion again several months ago. I love Jane Austen.
I feel for you! But it will work in your soul as a spiritual imperative, pulling you toward freedom. There's something in the air at the moment making honesty appear, what/who we really are and what we value. The paths are diverging.. It's irresistible, and very welcome (not always comfortable).
What you said reminded me of Thoreau's wonderful chapter in his book Walden, Chapter 5 which is called Economy, that includes the wonderful sentences: "I see England today as an old gentleman who is traveling with a great deal of baggage, curios, and bric-a-brac which have accumulated from long housekeeping, which he lacks the courage to burn. It would surpass the power of a healthy person nowadays to take up their bed and walk, and I would advise a sick one to lay down their bed and run."
The whole chapter is fab, the images in it of a person trying to make headway carrying the burden of all their stuff have stayed with me. Good luck on your simplicity journey — may it all go well. You could start with your own stuff; separate it out from what belongs to the others in your family, and reduce it to minimalist beauty, so you know what you have and become more and more free.
Here's the chapter: —
https://medium.com/the-mission/walden-part-1-economy-chapter-5-9d1a26f22e7
Thank you for the quote and chapter link! I have been reducing for years, but I know I have a fair bit to go. I'm also trying to keep Marie Kondo's sage advise in mind: instead of getting mad at others for their excess, lead by quiet example in dealing with your own things.
I also really admire your thoughtful and intentional way of living, it's encouraging.
I love Marie Kondo. I like the way she feels the space, and talks to the house. I also like her practice of dividing the house into zones for each inhabitant, so they can each keep their belongings in their own zone, and take responsibility for their belongings and their zone, which then makes it fairly clear where the clutter is originating!
I haven't quite figured out how to delineate spaces for family members. There are, of course, bedrooms; but my three daughters share one with one closet, one dresser, and one funny kitchen-like cabinet mounted near the ceiling (!). Their items kinda just stew together. As for communal spaces, there's the bathrooms, living room, kitchen, dining area, and garage. The garage is the easiest space to divide as there are a lot of shelves, but that, too, is tricky, because a lot of the items are communal (gardening and repair tools, etc.). How do you organize zones in your home?
I started to answer this and realised it would make a ludicrously long comment. I'll write a separate blog post about it during the day. Thanks for the question, Sarah, because it's a good point!
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